Does being thrown seem like losing to you?
Was it to Tohei?
How about Saotome?
How about Takeda, Sagawa, Horikawa, Hisa, Ueshiba. Shioda, Shirata, Mochizuki, Tomiki, all were all known to "feel" different....and be devastatingly effective...sans any technique....and could not be thrown.
dojo(s) ....was that all happening?
Why was that
once considered...good, and we are being taught to fall down?
Seriously Mary.....Why were they known for the very quality you seem to despise?
I think that this worth some serious consideration.