Dr. Goldsbury, thank you for the post. Lots to think about. I need to go read some old books I've got around here somewhere on constitutive rhetoric...
I'll also comment that I'm reminded of a line from the Godfather. "Make him an offer he can't refuse." If the word 'negotiation' can include the notion of having a gun pointed at your head, well, maybe that isn't so far off. And furthermore the conflict is "resolved", one way or the other, at least in some sense of the word. So we have negotiation and conflict resolution, right?
I think Ueshiba making a statement that "Aiki allows you to exert your will on others"....
pretty much blew the cooperation model right out the window. Perhaps it's interesting to consider whether or not he
needed cooperation...to achieve aiki?