True, but I think we're getting away from the kind of communication that was being discussed in the OP.
Oh, that happened some time ago. Ironically, it illustrates OP's point.
The story in the OP is about a situation in which two people's communication is stunted and constrained by their assumptions about what the other wants. That same assumption pervades most of the stunted communication on aikiweb, unfortunately. Worse still is the way we need to add an icing of judgment on top of the case: I'm going to make assumptions about what you want/are trying to do, slap my labels on it, and hold it up to ridicule. But I digress.