hakama's at my dojo
Hakama wearing varies from dojo to dojo, so one really needs to judge what hakama wearing means within the context of their own dojo.
In my dojo, men must wait till they reach shodan to wear the hakama and the women may choose to wear the hakama after passing their 5th kyu test.
I'm a hakama wearing 5th kyu female. I really don't think that my wearing a hakama makes me better than the male 5th kyus. Please do not think that just because I have a hakama on means I'm good. I just means I passed my 5th kyu test.