hindsight is 20-20? maybe not
Oftentimes, when under pressure and with enough training and acquired wisdom, we simply react in a certain way based on instincts. It seems to be almost impossible to fully understand what we did and why we did it the moment.
Neverthess, afterwards, we like like to speculate -- yet, such speculation can never truly be fully accurate.
Basically, all we can do is listen, learn and grow -- and avoid fighting for no reason, except to support our sorry egos.