Re: My aikido is at the crossroads
I suggest that you use uke as a mirror to reflect your tension and bad technique. When you find uke spinning out of shiho nage, slow the technique down, stop when you hit that point, identify what you're doing wrong and fix it, then continue. It requires that you communicate with uke and ask that they tell you what they're feeling, because 9 times out of 10, uke is doing what you're telling them to do,
Uke is rarely the problem, and problem uke's are a great opportunity to find our mistakes and fix them.