Re: My aikido is at the crossroads
Good advice. Also, consider the following psychological experiment:
You get two subjects. Create an apparatus so that each subject has their thumb under a lever controlled by the other person, so that each person can apply pressure to the other's thumb, but they can't see each other. Tell them to do nothing but press on the other person's thumb with the same intensity that the other presses on theirs.
Invariably, what happens is an escalating cycle of increasing pressure so that both sides are very quickly mashing the other person's thumb as hard as they can.
Moral of the story: Don't assume you have it worst. Even if you actually do, don't assume it's intentional.