The catch is that for Aiki in particular our normal motivation is mis appropriated. In otherwords, if one wishes to "over come," "prevail," "dominate," "kill," or even "love" it usually screws up the Aiki process as one's heart, mind/intent, ki, body becomes linearly directed and expresses that desire a "normal" way. It is paradoxical. The more one wishes to accomplish one's goal, the more the goal must be to accomplish Aiki within one's self. Masa Katsu A Katsu.
Folks wanting what they want strongly are a dime a billion.
Who has been talking about aiki? I have been simply talking about a general process that leads to any action. Now your motivation for aiki may be misappropriated, but mine is focused on the actions that I have been taught will help developed my aiki - and of course, we all know that is aiki in me before aiki in you and me