Don't forget loving protection means protection of self as well. I try very hard to keep this attitude. This is how I felt before I ever knew what Aikido was, which meant that when the fight was over I didn't kill the guy lying helpless on the ground.
What that means now I'm not sure - I'll write that page when I come to it. I don't believe it means giving up the innate sense of self-preservation or to welcome death so that your attacker may live.