Re: "The goal is not to throw"
I'm with Nathan on this one I think. I always understood this statement as "don't focus on the outcome, focus on the process". This may be stating the obvious, but when doing a throw, the goal is obviously to throw. What would be the point otherwise? Is everyone out there accidentally doing throws when they don't really mean to? The thing is, the best way to throw someone is not necessarily to focus on the outcome but to do the process correctly. My sensei tells me not to get too caught up in where you want uke to go. Rather, focus on what you know you have to do. If you are doing it correctly, then uke will go in the right place. Anyway, that's my take on this.