I honestly think people make this way too complicated and often way too "mystical" sounding when it really doesn't need to be.
...and then he proceeds to get a wee bit "mystical" himself with talk about "connection". Come on, Keith!
Back to what I said before: is it "The goal is not to throw", implying that while throwing isn't the goal, it could happen....or "The goal is to not throw"? Big difference.
If the former, perhaps a better word than "goal" is "focus". Focus on the throw, or the ending, and you're likely to trip up while trying to get there. As my sensei says, you can't bake the cake until you've assembled the ingredients.