Re: On being Female in an Aikido Dojo
Being at a dojo with female black belts helps enormously. At my first dojo, the beginners' classes were co-taught by a married couple, so male beginners tended to learn appropriate respect from the very beginning. You might look around to see if there are other dojos in the area with a more balanced demographic. Whether you ultimately decide to make a change or not, seeing different perspectives can help you figure out what your expectations should be.
Men and women are different. They learn differently, and they come to training with different physical characteristics and different social conditioning. Good teachers recognize that, and try to give all their students the kind of attention they need to succeed.