Re: Not being challenged as Uke?
Franzisca, I partner w/ a good number of beginners, and find that very often they were told by others, as you seem to have been, "tap when it hurts."
The thing is, my goal in pinning is not to create pain. It's to create adequate control so that the person being pinned either cannot roll/stand/wiggle out of the pin or feels so bound up he has no desire to try to roll/stand/wiggle out. Any pain would result from his efforts to do so, not from his acceptance of the lock.
So I always ask, "OK, can you get up? no? Then please tap out otherwise we will sit here all night...."