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Old 09-19-2011, 01:04 AM   #24
Tim Ruijs
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Dojo: Makato/Netherlands
Location: Netherlands - Leusden
Join Date: Aug 2005
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Re: verbal abuse from a teacher

Verbal abuse is not to build character, it is to break character. Think army drill sergeant. Why do drill sergeants act the way they do?
First break you down and then build you up to be a soldier.
To some extent this goes for martial arts to.

In Aikido I think this is very much out of place.

Think deeply about why you would want stay with this teacher. Is he that good? Or is the dojo conveniently 'there'? If you cannot find a (very) good reason to stay, leave immediately.

In a real fight:
* If you make a bad decision, you die.
* If you don't decide anything, you die.
Aikido teaches you how to decide.
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