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Old 09-18-2011, 11:05 PM   #20
"aikidokaanonymno"
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Re: verbal abuse from a teacher

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Graham Christian wrote: View Post
honourably serving does not mean being subservient.
Wow, very nice. Never thought of it that way. Thank you!

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Michael Hackett wrote: View Post
There is a huge difference in the boot camp atmosphere of an Explorer Academy and a dojo's student-teacher relationship. At the academy every one of you was yelled at and found deficient, as opposed to being singled out by an authority figure.
Ah, that's right. I remember coming to that conclusion right after getting out of Academy. And Sensei doesn't seem to talk to anyone else the way he does to me.

And yes, I am a girl

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Marc Abrams wrote: View Post
If you like yourself and respect yourself, associate with people who do that as well.
It's a bit difficult to start respecting myself again after a good 4 years of Sensei's rants. But, as you said, I think with the right people I can pull myself together again. You're right on every point, thank you.

So do any of you think it's possible to talk to him (or write a careful letter) and set a boundary between acceptable and unacceptable mode of conversation? Or is running away the only option? I mean, he is respectful with other students. He is like this only with those that are closest to him.

I am also afraid that if I don't learn to stand up for myself here, another situation will present itself elsewhere and I will be forced to run from other dojos, jobs, relationships, etc...
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