I chose to give them most of the money, but not all of it. It left them angry, but it dampened the flames of their passion to continue fighting me on it. I consider it a partial victory for myself. I didn't give in all the way, and more importantly, I didn't let them determine what wars I would be engaged in. I made that choice for myself. This is the art of fighting without fighting. It could be considered a form of "martial effectiveness", imo.
Sound like good blending of interests (kino nagare) to me. You defused the situation with as little effort as possible. A fight does not necessarily mean combat mano a mano
, any conflict will do.
Very nice example of aiki.