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Old 08-27-2011, 04:06 PM   #41
Location: Massachusetts
Join Date: Jun 2006
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Re: Pompous Baffoons

Mary Eastland wrote: View Post
Have you ever spent time chatting with him after class?
He's not a regular student at this dojo, so that opportunity may not be there.

Mary Eastland wrote: View Post
If I find a person to be particularly troublesome for me, I train with them anyway because that person gives me the opportunity to learn so much about myself.
I was taught that my reactions to people are all I can concern myself with.
I agree with both of these, and yet I have to wonder -- if you've learned a lesson, does it really benefit you to keep learning it over and over again? Is it really "learning" if you already know it? At what point does it become gratuitous self-torture? I think with some people, depending on who you are and who they are, there's a point where the sane response is to just say to yourself, "Right, I've done what I can with this" -- echoing your sentiment that all you control is yourself -- accept that the situation isn't going to change, and exercise your option to stay away from it.
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