I have a small problem with this phrase though:
"A Zen Master would ask you to put your identity on the table so _he_ could take a closer look and fix it if necessary. "
In my experience with Buddhist meditation is that You put your identity (problem, crisis, behavior) on the table, You examine it and You Accept it, and sometimes the problem or crisis just goes away, or transforms.
I is not always easy to examine and recognize your true self. But it is sometimes even more difficult to allow others to see you as you really are.
Enjoyed this post thoroughly Lynne. Especially having recently come through a period of self examination; learning to recognize, and learning to let others see, the real me.