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Old 07-14-2011, 11:06 PM   #2
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Re: A Difficult Application

Yikes! I am terrified of having a teenager. I hope things work out between you. Do you believe it about the "they're scared" explanation? Do you think that info will help you connect?

People say things like "it's just a phase," but lots can happen even during a phase, and then these phases end up being what our lives are composed of.

As I read, I kept thinking that "tenkan" doesn't mean just letting it slide and forgetting about it-- you are connecting, storing, "charging" your connection in a tenkan, so that all that energy can all become productive (rather than lost) as the encounter progresses. So, now that you are able to not get so affected by things-- how can a parent absorb all that harsh energy and then channel it into a more productive use going forward?

Thanks for the read!
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