Good post - I can understand and agree with much of what you say - I can assure you it was not always that way. believe me.
My son Rik Ellis is a long time student of Aikido, he is now doing very well in the MMA scene - my 16 yr old grandson Jay also has an Aikido background and last Saturday fought and won against a 24 yr old fighter. He has won his first three semi-pro fights all in the first round..Good luck to you and your choice of martial art.
Henry Ellis
Rik Ellis Aikdo/MMA
http://rik-ellis.blogspot.com/