Hi Lynn, (not meaning to seem like a "smartass, but here goes anyway...) I figured out that I can't afford to "PAY ATTENTION", so I try "Give Attention." Of course, some days are better than others... it's very difficult to not descend to a state of being on auto pilot/not really flying... :straight.
My Dad used to say I was a smart ass. I told him the intelligence had to be somewhere.
I like the "give" rather than the "pay" attention.
Subtle reframes make a lot of differences.
I find its often in how I think about things that I create my own resistance/problems.
Yet, when I don't think about them they tend to go even worse.
"Give" attention to the balance.
Its a Goldilocks thing.