... We are told that Aikido is meant not to harm the opponent. ...
This is a sentence I first read on an internet forum and never heard from a teacher.
But we are also by told by most instructors that we are to do what is necessary in a self defense situation.
"Everything is allowed in aikido", is a sentence I heard of a teacher during my very first seminar.
To not hurt the opponent is not part of the picture of the aikido I know. And will not work with an opponent who isn't used to aikido.
But what is more interesting to me:
When I practice with people who don't do aikido the ude kime nage which doesn't seem to work is one of the most effective tools. (Without breaking the elbow ...