I'm from California, and the Left Coast to boot, but I still have a question: when did women become such delicate flowers that a polite and tactful request regarding make-up/lipstick/perfume become politically incorrect?
Oh, honestly. Where did you get this "polite and tactful request" becoming "politically incorrect"? No one said or suggested any such thing. OP just asked for suggestions on how to handle the situation. People gave opinions. AFAIK no one criticized any suggestion saying "Oh wow no you can't do that, that's POLITICALLY INCORRECT!!!" So why the need to create this strawman?