Re: dirty uniform
I'm from California, and the Left Coast to boot, but I still have a question: when did women become such delicate flowers that a polite and tactful request regarding make-up/lipstick/perfume become politically incorrect? To my neanderthal mind, it still seems reasonable for the aggrieved party to discretely speak up about a soiled uniform, regardless of gender.
And I think the gym comparison is faulty as well. Men and women go to a gym for different reasons than they train in Aikido. In the gym you generally find one of two classes of people; those who are out of shape and trying to improve, and those who are in good shape and proud to show off their tone and muscle development. In the dojo most folks are there to learn an art and aren't quite so interested in demonstrating their attractiveness.