Colleen: Anat is probably a woman.
I like training with people who are fun to grab or who grab me in ways that spark something inside. I don't care (very much) if they are doing what my sensei taught, what the seminar's sensei was teaching, or something they dragged in off the street. That's just me, though.
I took a class in Contact Improv last semester, and we put a lot of thought into the idea of putting away the agenda you bring to the dance and having the dance that is happening right now with the person you are dancing with right now. I feel like that applies here: I have the rest of my life to learn the things I think I'm supposed to be learning, I only have this dance with this particular aikidoka right now. To me, that's more important.