People fail to see the dynamic sphere that Aikido is. It is not a single minded, single dimension activity. It wasn't made for combat, but rather for the soul.
Be that as it may, and I don't necessarily disagree with you, I argue that if you haven't got (or are striving toward) kuzushi, atemi, and mind/body coordination (ki!), against somebody who is not simply falling for you, then you're really not doing aikido.
At least not the aikido that O'Sensei and his students (including his son) were doing.