Re: Using less force on a smaller person w/o being patronizing
To the original question, just ask her every now and then and try not to worry so much about it. It's not an unreasonable question, just being safe. Actually it's probably good to get feedback from people every now and then in general, especially if you don't know them well, even if it's just a brief "OK?" after throwing -- some of the 'big' people may actually be inexperienced, stiff, injured, etc...