I almost feel I should give up tanning so I can get this person out of my mind. I don't know what to do. I wish I could train with them just as I train with anybody else.
What does tanning have to do with anything?
Dating a dojo person can cause problems if it doesn't work out. If the two of you are serious about dating, you have two choices.
1.) Do it quietly (despite your dojo rules)
2.) One of you goes to another dojo and you date