Re: Cultivating a mind for training honestly.
I've often heard it said that aikido is not just blending your own technique with that of your opponent but also a blend of your kokoro (heart/mind) with that of your opponent. If you have this, you can do anything. If you don't, then you get people challenging each other, deliberately injuring folk by giving them more than they can handle, complying to avoid hurting the other's feelings, purposely not attacking properly in order to "beat" the other person, actively helping that other person to "beat" you and so on. I think that without that basic mindset of honest training, it can go either way with often ludicrous results.