Free advice may not be worth the price to both give and receive it. You get what you pay for, no more, no less.
I have been told that advice must be given in a miserly fashion, only when it is specifically requested, or if an emergency exists.
Wizard's Second Rule may apply. "The greatest Harm may come from the desire to do the greatest Good."
Counsel gently, listen compassionately, and encourage courageously, but refrain from usurping the person's right to choose.
Any decision made privately, may be changed without fan fare. A decision made publicly, may well invite the unwitting bondage of wounded pride, false ego and the fear of embarrassment. Being a friend, means allowing each other to be human, and to learn from acting as one. Acting in Aiki, may well form the basis for the best support possible.
In this way, we will truly become our own teacher
Thank you very much for your kind wisdom, sensei.
I wish you have had come on board the forum much earlier, cause it would have saved me from enduring so much grief.