View Single Post
Old 11-05-2009, 10:31 AM   #37
Basia Halliop
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 711
Re: Sempai-Kohai relationship

I think in discussions about etiquette (whether it's Japanese etiquette or any other kind of etiquette) a fact that often seems to get oddly neglected is that etiquette is a common language of rituals and signals that people use to interact and _communicate_ various things like, e.g., respect or insult or more subtle things like helpfulness or authority. Since by definition things that are 'etiquette' _aren't_ things that simply come from logical deduction, i.e., from ethical necessity or practical necessity, their entire use and purpose comes from the fact that they're a common language that both members in an exchange understand.

Trying to use rules of etiquette when both parties haven't established a shared language renders the whole exercise meaningless...
  Reply With Quote