I turned my computer off, went out and walked around for a while, then came back to this forum with fresh eyes. I want to change what I wrote to Colleen. Unfortunately, it's too late for that.
Her post was not in any way offensive; rather the opposite. The one part that could be taken that way I blew way out of proportion.
Colleen, I apologise for my rash response. That your post unintentionally touched a sore nerve is no excuse for my answering is such a fashion. I hope you will be able to pass it off as a misunderstanding. It won't happen again.
Hopefully your friend,