SNIP I don't think controlling people "for their own good" is a great goal SNIP
Such control is an illusion. If we are lucky we can learn to control ourselves. It takes two to tango .. what if one decides not to tango - what is the other doing?
Aiki is driven by the proper intent. Aikido with improper intent will always produce dissoluiton. Once so confilcted change the intent and repeat. As the man says "aikido is a means to purify the universe" - that can't be very easy.