And I'm working with my wife (does begging count as "working with"???)
Oh, Jon. Take the advice of those of us who have gone down that dark, forbidding alley - find more friends to push on you and leave the wife out of it. This is going to be another relationship severely tested by The Quest For The Eternal Internal Strengthz. Consider yourself very lucky if you escape with just some eye-rolling, audible sighing and "What, push on you again? For that weird stuff you're doing? For how long? . . . That was longer than a few seconds!"