I just read something that resonated with me about this topic in a different thread:
Survival in today's jungle:
Self-absorption: no empathy or love, could lead one to the delusion that he is the only person with free will and emotion.
Altruism: pure empathy and love, dangerous mind state leads to manipulation from self-absorbed others. Feelings of weakness, learned helplessness, and a total external locus of control.
Invulnerable Altruism: The result of proper, consistent Aiki-geiko. A moderate, chronic euphoria that words cannot further describe.
I like this idea of "Invulnerable Altruism". I look at it as being unassailable. I'm working on that because I suspect it will help me also become much more unassailing!
You can debate with me to your hearts content. I would also like to read the OP's perspective.