Re: Objecting to "Traditional Respect"
Sahid (if I may call you that),
What does Kobayashi shihan say? I've met both the elder (Yasuo) Kobayashi and his son at seminars here in the U.S. They impressed me as instructors and seem to run good schools.
I suggest that Kobayashi shihand would be a good first resources for discussing this issue.
Let us know how it turns out.