I want to live the dojo, but until the student elect the other guy and tell me they want him, I still feel obligated and have a responsibility to them.
What is a sensei like me who isn't into the Alpha male non-sense to do?
A dojo is not democracy. Students can't elect a sensei - it must be a bad joke. This is biggest nonsense I've ever heard.
I think you are not in the right place - you have not capacity to be instructor nor the leader of the dojo.
Do you have any teacher? Is he aware you are teaching? Who taught you aikido?
Leading a dojo has nothing to do with Alpha, beta or whatever nonsense. It is a lot of responsibility and you must be able to deal with difficulties and not trying to find cheap excuse for your evident weakness.