I share your hypothesis Jennifer.
Have you by chance read "In Search of the Warrior Spirit"?
Dr Strozzi-Heckler covers alot of this in that book.
This links to Amazon Book: http://cli.gs/6q30SS
The good news is that the Army has instituted the Modern Army Combatives Program, which is a form of budo. Although I am not sure how many people identify with it for the reasons you state, but it is a step in the direction.
The army also has started a whole program on "Battlemind" as well.
While we might not recognize it in the form we see in the dojo, there are things that are being done these days.
I agree though that for many, budo and particularly Aikido, for the reasons Dr Strozzi-Heckler outlines in his book would be a good thing too!