I've been living in Asia for the last 15 years and I've practice with a number of amazingly talanted female aikidoka. They all had similar traits:
1. They loved practicing aikido.
2. They practiced with a lot of enthusiasm.
3. They were optimistic people.
4. They challenged their fears.
5. They weren't bent on being self concious.
6. They were tenacious and tireless in their practice.
7. They maintained their femininity but were not weak.