Sorry, I realized I apparently contradicted myself in that last post, let me clarify:
I wrote without thinking how it sounded:
If you threw every technique soft for every uke, no one would have a problem.
I, myself, do not like soft techniques 100% of the time...
I meant that no one would have a problem as far as the discussion of gender went... if you threw soft for everyone then no problem. Since you throw women softer, there is a problem.
Then - later, new thought - I don't like soft all the time. I like to be pushed.
Hopefully that clears up my thinking...