Re: Verbal Aikido
Ah, a well-placed bark can be a thing of beauty, especially a truthful bark.
Resolving conflict through reason, humor, and understanding is also a thing of beauty, but to everything a season and all.
Sometimes lines get missed in conflict, and pointing them out with "verbal atemi" may be necessary and constructive.
Verbally aggressive people in particular usually have favorite ploys to getting their way. They may understand either consciously or tacitly that signals are being sent showing good will, understanding, or even good sense and treat them as weaknesses.
Atemi (bark or bite) can create space for something else to happen, I think.