SO GLAD YOU ASKED!!!!! the simple answer is, "NO!" - I would say that your conclusion is based upon a "Western minded" method of analysis. This is not a case where we compare when I make you cry by hitting you and you make me cry by hitting me harder. We know where that will lead us. This is more of a case where you want to hit me, but I make you cry from loving you. Where might that lead us?
Man Shaun you continue to blow me away with the right thing to say. thanks for this. A perfect expression of Aikido.
Now I really have to go to work. Yes even folks in Malibu have to work once in a while LOL