BTW, this thread has two (count 'em!) Marys.
Mary Eastland (the OP) is the one out in the Berkshires in her independent dojo. Mary Malmros (hiya Mary -- remember the ol' days at Jae Kim's?) is eastward of W'ster if I recall correctly.
Yeah, and everyone should know that in the early days of rec.martial-arts, nobody messed with Mary Malmros for fear of getting skewered by her wit. If I say, "Hey, I saw Mary Malmros on AikiWeb" the old crowd will ask what she said. She paid her dues in the coin of common sense.