There are no tricks to it.
There are no shortcuts.
There are no inspirational words that will magically make it happen.
And BTW, "just choose to" is a non-answer, right up there with 'don't get hit' and 'just throw him'. If your answer is 'you need to figure out what works for you,' tell me what worked for you. I apologize for the frustration, but I'm finding it difficult to 'just' decide, and it is hard to look for advice and find platitudes.
Tough. Sometimes the only real answer isn't the one you want.
Do it. Or give up. Because that is what it all boils down to.