It is quite difficult to constitute a clear idea about the 2 dojos just from your post. So I agree with the above suggestion to try both. You can join 1 dojo for 1 month, then switch to the other for another month. After that you'll be able to decide.
However, my personal opinion, which is usually not very popular, is to go for the hard training and strict etiquette option. Aikido purpose is not to make friendships nor to enjoy time with the guys. You will end-up making friends anyway, but I mean this is not the purpose. If you are serious about practicing aikido, then the choice is obvious.
Last edited by Edward : 05-03-2002 at 12:29 AM.