That's what it looks like when you put 4 average guys together and tell 3 of them to wrestle one of them to the ground. If you doubt it, try it.
And that's exactly what martial arts (and certainly budo) isn't. That's what middle schoolers do in the basement. Even in very 'freestyle' heavy arts like judo, instruction involves progressive drills which help guide the practitioner forward. Maybe you should focus more on the Dog Bros. stuff since that obviously resonated with you. Lose the Aikido trappings and just see where that takes you.