I think that when two or more forces or energies come together they create a third force, an "aiki". It has physical properties and manifests just like any other physical thing, but take away one of its pieces and POOF! ...where did it go? This may be how atoms are formed, how galaxies come together.
A couple of German philosophers called this "gestalt" back in the 1920s, and described it as "The whole is different than the sum of its parts". We think motion pictures are alive, but they are just moving faster than we can recognize them as being still.
It is the wave itself, not the ocean water that makes it.