Nice post Don, I especially like this bit ;
Of course I have the will power to give up a technique if it looks like the other person is being pig headed. It's not about wining or losing. I will choke or armbar many a noob and just let go and go to another technique rather then hurt them because they are too new to know when to tap. I still learned the effectiveness, I still learned about the setup and how people will defend. And I learned about control and keeping my ego in check.