So you are saying that aikidoka talk about attacking a lot? Given how often one hears "step off the line of attack" and "uke attacks and I tenkan" I find that hard to believe. I'm not even sure your average practitioner would be comfortable with the concept of an attacking nage at a basic philosophical level.
Well then maybe thats just down to the way we do things where I train then. But then, I've never met an average person let alone an average aikido practitioner so I don't really know what you mean for certain.