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Jennifer Smith wrote:
We are a family (like it or not). While we're competing we are removing ourself from our family time (inversely related to above post about scavenger hunt and glasses..sorry don't remember which number). If we were cooperating in task then we would never be leaving our 'family time' or our musubi.
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In my dojo family, we cooperate precisely BY competing appropriately with each other. To do any less is to
lie to my brothers and sisters. Yet... somehow, we are closer than any other dojo family I've ever been a part of.
Hmmm.
The painful truth is that many (if not most) of the rabidly anti-competition "peace and love" folks I've experienced are, in reality, extremely passive-aggressive abusers who talk a good game, but whose true heart is actually very different from what they'd prefer to
believe it is.
<sarcasm>Oddly</sarcasm>, we don't seem to have (m)any of those folks in our family.
Direct honesty and appropriate use of competition in training either weeds these people out or changes their nature.